" Call the soul's psychological perspection

" Call the soul's psychological perspection
In the countrysides of a lot of places of our country, there is a custom so far, act as the thoughtless child is frightened in surprise, for example after being been frightened by dog's other things outdoors, the adult will generally be in the evening, come to the place that the child is frightened in the daytime, one side is calling the child's name, ask him not to be afraid, and follow to shout: " come back, come back! " Still burn some paper money sometimes, in order to hold a memorial ceremony for world. What is more, will also invite a much-admired old man to " accept frightening " for the child, namely at the face of child after fast asleep, draw some incantation that exorcise evil spirits while being high up in the air, and mouth mumbling some words, the purpose lies in making the soul come back too. Whether all these method is really effective, there is any scientific evidence, await our studying conscientiously, but this is convention that has descended for many years, undoubtedly. As to " ask soul ", method to " charge frightening ", a lot of people think this is a kind of superstitious activity completely, a bundle of negatives. But really so simple? Can say so, " to ask the soul to " have its passive aspects, have its positive aspects too. First, this, from adult, have reflected a sheet of feelings shown loving care for to the child through " call the soul ". After the child receives the frighten, even if the adult does not call, " soul " will not lose either, or separated for a few more days most the next day, the child will be good naturally. If " the soul " lose really, whom whom you ask come back? From child, he or she will think, I family members like me very much, care, I, psychologically will receive great comfort, gradually can forget the unhappy thing; If after the child receives the frighten, the adult turns a deaf ear to, even berate it, then the child's psychology will be deep and is injured, and think the adult dislikes him, thus will be hostile to parents or other family, so " ask soul " make children love parents, family even more. Can set up a kind of healthy parent-offspring's relation between child and family, favorable to the sound development of infant's personality. Canvass " ask soul " while being from angle of the psychoanalysis, can find out we Chinese nation notice the intersection of infant and psychological wound that period receive for a long time, if had not treated effectively in time at that time, may influence his personality to develop in a healthy way, the influence of wound will hide, in him in the heart of hearts, might result in, become neural the intersection of disease and origin of disease in the future, this is too the question that this text should canvass. We have already now been clear, there is the difference on the level of understanding between child and adult. So a psychological wound is not coming from the judging of the adult in childhood, it is not standard by the adult's experience, look from in children's eyes, self-assessment of infant, some thing come, it watches to be very inmature a funny one in the intersection of we and adult, but extraordinary on infant's eyes. The example as above, has been given a start by the dog, will not look on as the same thing at all for adult, in child's heart, but left the trace different to wear away. But pathologic psychology tells us, have major impact to people's individual character and psychological disease to experience in childhood. Disease symptom at present and forming and can all be due to tracing back to infancy in the past. Wound of childhood experience, at that time without get treatment in time, will sneak, restrain get unconscious, becoming day crux or origin, future trouble of disease. China " see seven years old at three years old from ancient times, the statement that read all one's life at seven year old ", its some meaning is the environment in childhood, have major impact to take shape to experience the individual character to people in childhood. This kind of folk custom phenomenon through " call the soul " of ours, reject it and does not conform to scientific composition, and development, turn it into a scientific children's psychological therapeutic method. To the infant who is frightened in surprise like this, we can adopt the person asking the infant parents or infant to trust most, from the view of children, use a kind of children language, come to explain this kind of incident scientifically, and complement it with the most cordial comfort, in order to dispel the child's frightened psychology, and while meeting the similar incident in the future, not not only afraid, and know how to deal with. If the wound intensity received is more serious, can be under the doctor's suggestion, complement it by the drug therapy of lighter quantity. Or let the psychologist carry on the psychotherapy, in order to dispel the stumbling-block that health personality grows up in the course.

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