" L The latent wedding clan " R Mostly assuare expert reminds and watches out for the rice bowl " L The bad reaction " R

" L The latent wedding clan " R Mostly assuare expert reminds and watches out for the rice bowl " L The bad reaction " R
What is meant by the latent wedding? Mean that has already done the marriage procedure well, but conceal the married fact in the public occasion, appear with the single identity, called too " L False and single " .
A lot of people surprised the intersection of China and son star of,etc. can afford to conceal thing that marry unexpectedly the same, also find suddenly in another side, not only the stars, but also many people rise around, wait until handling and growing the card accurately, just suddenly see the light " L Originally he ' She) Also got married " .
This wonders, the major issue in life, the happy event faces the door, " L Announce to the whole world " R Have no enough time, why conceal, even avoid denying by every possible means? What kind of psychology does latent wedding clan really hide?
The ones that let's see a portal are on net " L The latent wedding is investigated " : Majority " L The latent wedding clan " R It is not in the imagination " L Distinguished and admirable " ,But because of the pressure in society and career, have to avoid the marriage topic. In the investigation, two items about ranking the first place in the reason of the latent wedding " L In order to keep the job, try to get the development with better undertaking " , " The social activity is panic, fear to be squeezed outside the community " R Come from the job market. The investigation reveals too, over half of the netizens express all right understanding to this kind of behavior.
In the reporter interviews, the analysis that the expert understands too. And the prevalence of latent wedding phenomenon, reflect the transition of the social marriage view, the marriage is turned into a personal thing rather than thing of family.
The latent wedding, for the rice bowl
Talk about the latent wedding, " L The false unmarried person " R Small Lu seems very helpless: " I do not want to be a thief and hide equally either, but this sneaks the rule, have no way. " What she said sneaks the rule, as to the married women of the right age, it often depends on whether you have given birth to the child to apply for the unit, grow when does it plan raw, employing unit want, employ one just been here, stop main fact that maternity leave can not work.
In recruitment, even the useful people's unit calls the roll to want the unmarried male young man, family does not tie down, can regard unit as family, work overtime, treat with courtesy, need and report to wife. Stick the label of the marriage, the personal glamour and competitiveness seem to make discounts. In order to keep the job, only take off rings.
Sociologist of Guangdong Province Chinese Academy of Social Sciences Peng Peng points out, job market's latent wedding has reflected the unfairness relation between applicants and persons who recruit from a certain degree. The strongly fragrant brightness brightness of psychological expert of psychological hospital of white cloud thinks whether no matter the actor or white collar of city, it may be the helpless act that there is more latent wedding. Because of some positions, have no family to give consideration to to compare alone in the married one, can make oneself in the flexibility of the business, it is more convenient for the work to treat with courtesy, can be favored in cooperating by opposite sex's colleague and cooperation target. The identity of getting married will bring the obstacle, the latent wedding to the people to work, everybody should the attitude which Israel understand is treated .
Does the marriage hinder the social activity?
Many net friends are right to be one's own " L The latent wedding " R The state is very calm, think this is a very normal thing. They state frankly, oneself " L The latent wedding " R Reason hope as friend, colleague besides keen competition of the job market, also to last relations harmoniouses antenuptial. Still some people think the interpersonal relationships among colleague's friend are too complicated now, for and trival matters of giving a present etc. of preventing the traditional pendulum wine from being the host to entertain, it would be better not to say that has already got married by oneself, so as to not make irritated for these all day under colleague.
The strongly fragrant brightness brightness doctor says, the prevalence of the latent wedding phenomenon, is involved in requirement of the social environment, having explained now society at the same time, everybody's attitude toward marriage begins some changes to takes place, getting married does not want the leader to approve, stamp in the unit again, but only two people's thing, do not want many people to admix in very much.
Yu HuiHui emphasizes some young people have chosen the latent wedding in a situation that there is no realistic condition to need, " These people are not probably confident in marriage, deal with in a low-key attitude on purpose, or does not hope to be known that has already got married by oneself by others at all, then even if two people distribute the person around without knowing either, there is no negative effect. " L The strongly fragrant brightness brightness thinks, this kind of marriage attitude is inadvisable, the marriage established on this basis is " R The jerry-built project " .
And the fake unmarried person lured and irritated outside the wedding of in order to obtain those, the expert reminds, want, play with fire upper part of the body carefully even more, otherwise hurt one's feeling and do oneself great harm.
The expert watches out for " L The latent wedding " R (used after an attribute) " L The bad reaction " R
The psychological expert of referral centre of South China Normal University says, the latent wedding is really one or several kinds psychological problems such as feeling self-humiliation, escaping and performing personality etc. in view of psychology, but to some people some special circumstances, it is a kind of best choice that this does not lack. But we want to watch out for at the same time" L The latent wedding " R (used after an attribute) " L The bad reaction " .
Long-term " L Not in the marriage state " R Psychology imply,will weaken family sense of duty of party,serious for but initiation marriage crisis. It is exposed to the sunshine to take it seriously, it will turn into a hollow-ground sword, if does not hold well, oneself and people around may be influenced . (Chen Ying Li )
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