" excessively care for " To own and kind to people

" excessively care for " To own and kind to people
Brief content: A lot of old men will all excessively care about the child after retiring, demand to take children to children by force, return the advantage listening to her in thing, this is excessively caring for.

According to " family health care newspaper ", grandmother Li is 60 years old this year, is engaged in the work of administration in a large-scale state-owned enterprise before retiring, because is busy at ordinary times, seldom bother about the things of family and children. And all these changed suddenly after the old man retired.
In children's view, mother can have a good rest at last all one's life while working hard, enjoy the family happiness. But what let them not think of is, mother after retiring has looked like and changed a person. Sons have all been already 40 years old, the old lady also phones everyday to ask the situation that he has a meal, has a rest, master studying the situation of the grandson in an all-round way too. As time goes by, the whole family all begin to be impatient. Grandmother Li feels a pain in the heart very much: Do I care they have it by mistake?
The expert analyzes:
Psychological consultation teacher Peng bright to say " cares for the psychology " known as the elderly at the these kind of behavior psychology of grandmother Li . As to this kind " Care for the psychology " Cause and danger, Peng last analysis bright:

P>First, old man wish eagerly to realize the self-value P>The old man puts emotion and life on children especially after retiring, it is totally normal. The reason to cause this kind of phenomenon is that the elderly were occupied with nothing suddenly, led to the fact the psychological drop was relatively great, it especially needs and values others, the society one's own respect and cares about to make.P>But because the life circle becomes narrow, the elderly rely on stronger and stronger to children's emotion, hope to receive the satisfaction of the emotion and lead off, cause children one's own more attention and love through the care and caring for of children on children. Meanwhile, are carrying on self-suggestion constantly through this way too, prove oneself is useful, it is valuable.P>Second, excessively care for and endanger the healthP>Excessively caring for descendants will make the elderly in the nervous, anxious state for a long time, the elderly who suffer from hypertension and cardiovascular vessel disease are very apt to have illness coming on because of this. Peng is bright to think, there is " care for the psychology " The elderly,it is care for excessively not to avoid by self-regulation.P>First of all, the old man should learn to get along with descendants with a kind of normal psychology, care about appropriately, go all out appropriately, separate appropriately.P>Secondly, old man want, train more interest, bunch drop in, chat, have a large circle of friends often, thus obtain more emotion support.P>In addition, the old man will know some self-regulation skills, if can turn on the TV set and see the entertainment when being depressed; While having palpitation, fearing, anxious and fretful etc., can listen to the music, breathe deeply etc..P>Third, children should communicate with the old man moreP>In actual life, a lot of people, especially children, " care for the psychology " of the old men Exist and understand the mistaken idea, think it takes managers to meddle in, a piece of piece in old man's everything, this is old group's patriarchal behavior of going one's own way. In fact this the elderly exactly wishes eagerly to be shown loving care for and is behaved by the care psychology.P>So, the children should cherish and sympathize with the psychology understood to communicate with the elderly more, must not drift apart the old man because of this, let alone demonstrate bored feeling. P>The editor recommends:Stay alone in the old man's characterized way of building up body
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