Special third party's Internet

Special third party's Internet
Not long ago, a girl friend complained to me: "My husband is very crazy about the chatroom on Internet, the people in the family all try to persuade me, there is no harm, don't be in charge of him, but I think that there is one kind of feelings treated coldly. He sat in front of the computer once coming home from work, can not go to bed until 3 o'clock before dawn. I know he needs the friend, not wanting to destroy his interest, but I really have one kind of feelings envied, lost, what shall I do? I sympathize with my friend very much, her feeling is totally normal, though chat on the net and can be regarded as a kind of amateurish hobby, but go to bed and already obviously influence their emotional life at 3 o'clock at night. After I consider repeatedly, advise her to adopt the following steps to do: Saw where his interest is with the development of times, Internet came into people's family, change people's life. If your husband is with his going together and chatting on the net, search knowledge and information related to his work and business, improve his ability and level, then you not only can't limit but also encourage and help him, and care about his health; If he is out of curiosity, this is people's general attitude to the new things. To to it crazy abouts to be freshness for the moment network a lot of people. Nervous in rhythm of life of ours, are full of societies of the pressure, can chat about the strange friend's moustache not meeting, one kind free by itself. Especially make friends to some in life overcautiously and setting the person that does not hold free, has become world that they showed on the net. If is so, you are totally unnecessary to be anxious, the law of this kind of situation is: The ones that had a chat at the beginning discussed slowly very hard that has just had nothing fresh more, influence the work again, not so habit-forming. Thing that you should be which try hard to be following at this moment. Train your common interest to like you and should check whether you two lack common interest and activity. You may already present the blank area, and it is very easy for this kind of blank to be filled in by other interests, activities or persons. This often causes the omen of the emotional crisis finally. These extramarital relations without sexual behavior can cause the break-up of the marriage too. You need time to re-recognize the other side, invite the husband to have a walk after a meal, see a film together or rent a good video disc, often have a heart-to-heart talk, remember over, exchange for now, look forward to the future. Also can study some new things together, for example utilize new software on the computer, study some foreign languages and arts to make, can let him only regard the computer as the tool chatting. In a word only remedy going in this blank, could let your marriage look like a firm wall, everyone can not push over. Surf the Net together in initiative participation if he really makes opposite sex's friend on the net, then you must enhance vigilance, but don't rip open the face at once, will raise difficult questions immediately, such a result may run counter to desire. The ones that chatted and produced extramarital affair on the net are not rare, because everybody does not feel awkward, also without restraint of responsibility, think a distinguished and admirable once. So you surf the Net with husband voluntarily it is a good method supervised. If husband's heart does not have two purpose, will be very glad that much one is kept company. A couple whom I know, the husband likes seeing the wife chat, his guidance behind their back. If he demonstrates that does not want to let you participate in, he has no interest or you surf the Net together, then he will probably submit in the network to some different charges in nature friends, and is developing the intimate relation. Your participation may make him desist from doing something before it is too late. In addition you can be through surfing the Net with him, see it is what you can't offer what he gets from others too. Help you to obtain and take the initiative in the marriage. The front exchange sits down if the method above can't be solved, you need to sit down with the husband, exchange the opinion conscientiously. You can let the husband think about what is important for his life, what is not important. Let him know you and family need his more care. Don't mind showing your true feelings, perhaps your aspiration will make him suddenly see the light. If he does not understand to your great pain at all, or the thing has already been developed as to the extent that he can not extricate oneself, you need to look for the consultant expert of the marriage, may persuade your husband, make your marriage get back to the normal orbit again. Transfer it to from the psychological hot line in Shanghai

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