Father act as the child guide well

Father, act as the child guide well
On educating the child, a lot of father adheres rigidly to content and principle of the so-called education, ignore opportunity and way that educate, do relation with children very deadlocked. The course of education, actually parents transmit the course of the emotion to children. Father once said to me: "A child is better unborn than untaught. It is that I do father's duty to correct and educate children whenever and wherever possible. " But his 15 -year-old son says: "I do not think father has liked me at all times, in his eyes, I am the trouble all over, my existence makes him not happy. " When a father only regards disciplining the child as a kind of responsibility, is afraid others say, will lose to the child's love and link up ability. Such education lacks the approval of the good relation. So, can " force to do so " the child ,Produce antagonistic psychology. In most family, father fond of play an authoritative role, make it become wishful thing not to educate, with the child's growth, such an authority will be challenged. The psychologist thinks, father should share the emotion with the child first, can't always serve as the adviser. In addition, there are good intimate relations as the foundation to educate children, the content that the influence concerned is greater than education. The best opportunity that father and child establish the intimate relation will be the child in two years old. At this moment, father can look like a piece of " disagreeable " The other person,enter mother and son if you can't concern, enclose hit. In the west, it has already been a kind of common understanding of promoting children's psychological development to let the two -year-old child have single bedrooms. The child of China can sleep with mother to get very big. Do not say exaggerating, a lot of children's psychological problem is produced because of this. The second key period is a child, at the age of 6. At this moment, father should participate in the interdynamic and regular setting-up of the family actively. The only-child brings a lot of challenges to family relationship, parents and child need to form a kind of emotion trigonometry each other, could make the family relationship get the equilibrium. Father should be kind to the child, must be deep with madam's emotion first. Children's adolescence in third key period. Compared with mother, father spoilt outside is easier to admit and approve the independence of the child. In traditional culture, father is often the edge people of the family, they are glad to carve a niche for oneself, leave the child to mother. Such a father likes inducing the boy growing up to leave home, it is difficult to involve in and make dangerously with him, savour life. Because of only-child, the modern father has played a non-traditional role more, make children lose natural member of the alliance and very good guide. Afraid of losing the only child in the modern father's subconscious, they are afraid the child separates with them after growing up, willing grows up trying to find out in the heart like allowing children to be vast and hazy at night in one slice is puzzled. " health Times "

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