Parents will increase the spiritual pressure for children while feeling bad

Parents will increase the spiritual pressure for children while feeling bad
If parents feel bad, should tell children? Talk about the adult's puzzlement to such a little child, is the question appropriate? Can the child realize, understand? The talk that will cause infants to bear is no doubt unnecessary, however, the expert thinks in infant's understandable range, let him understand the reason why parents feel bad, can prevent the infant from feeling guilty because of parents' mood.
How should parents judge one's own mood has already influenced children and grown up?
Advise you to ask oneself: Energetic accompany the child to play together, and care about child's need to move about and explore the things in the course of growing up? Can offer definite encouragement and to need of child? Are the requirements for child too strict, and make the child always feel nothing can be done well? Know the child's behavior is normal in terms of his age, but will not lose the temper big to him? Can encourage child's independence, or punish his reliance behavior? Can happiness, anger, grief and joy afford to have concurrently, and does not make sorrow become the only mood?
Put forward the principle that some parents mood influences children now, for you to think:
Don't give to children too many and bear, don't regard child as the target that pour out.
Explain simply and briefly, needn't speak perplexing too detailedly. Only need to say sentence: " father feels blue today! " Or: " whether mother meet a bit troublesome at not working! " It is enough.
Admit feeling blue, and say clearly this is one's own question, tell him: "The adult has the adult's questions too, we must solve by oneself. So, you should not be anxious. "
Find out about the child's feeling, say to him: "I feel blue, you are very unhappy, is it? " Or: " if only my mood is a bit better, can accompany you to play! " Tell children: "This is not your fault. " It is not what a child causes to feel bad, tell him though you are not very happy now, but still love him very much.
Emphasize mood will change. Though you feel blue now, it perhaps will be good soon. If the child tries very hard to miss comfort, you, he comes over to embrace you, eat his biscuit for you, or amuse you, do not forget: " I feel much better! "
In a word, can't because of the intersection of mood and quality of parents, cause the intersection of thought and pressure to child. Should let the child know he does parents a favor too, to relation between parents and children, the child is very good lubricant.
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