Parents must know the taboo speech that parent-offspring exchanges and _'s interpersonal psychology of clever saying

Parents must know the taboo speech that parent-offspring exchanges and _'s interpersonal psychology of clever saying
The society is bringing up different persons that waited for, the poor and the rich, the poverty is not faults, and children understand, the child sees others' living condition, material are enjoyed all better than oneself, will cause a very big psychological obstacle. Should dispel this psychological obstacle, it is given to children that parents should be inculcated with poor and also happy consciousness, it might not be to spend money and buy the toy or video game player to make the child clear and obtain happiness. Parents can take child to the park to breathe the air of the nature on the vacation, or reach sandy beach dabble, activity these need too many money, and the child can have topics among the partners, the physical and psychological development of them will have certain benefits.



How to get along with the child? To make for totally opposite with idea of you, how answer in the face of the intersection of child and innocent frank problem child sometimes?
Give an example:
1,ldquo; I mustn't have a meal, I want to eat rdquo of French fries;
Mother just prepared the lunch, but Shanshan bent over on the dining table listlessly, unwilling to lift the chopsticks to have meal. Mother thought Shanshan was uncomfortable, who knows but she said pouting the small mouth I do not have a meal, I want to eat hamburgers, French fries!
Prohibit speeches: ldquo; Are you annoying or am I annoying now? I ask you take what take anything, have a meal everything forbid, take right away, starve you. rdquo; ldquo; A lot of children want to eat and all have nothing to eat, you are really that growing up in happiness, one often fails to appreciate what happiness really means! You do not have a meal, I eat for the children by the street. rdquo;
Clever saying: ldquo; You have had lunch obediently, when get to have an afternoon tea, mother takes you to eat hamburgers. rdquo;
The expert shows the way: The child favours and gives no cause for much criticism in the delicious snacks, and food such as hamburger and French fries are especially loved by child's institute. Even so, but parents can't let children regard this as the main grain of the breakfast,lunch and dinner, otherwise, not only influence child's normal nutrition to absorb, also apt to make children form the habit partial to a limited variety of food, get discover, wanting, giving up bad habit this very much difficult even. The small food of fast food is delicious and simple to child, and the design atmosphere of this kind of snack bar caters to children's taste, in addition, toy that give with meal certain attractive, so want, change the intersection of Shanshan and the idea and inclination partial to a limited variety of food, it is more difficult in short time. So, mother should spend a little more attention while making the kitchen, it is good in color, smell and taste and matching the fresh food style to design having more, for example the child likes eating the French fries, can boil some Western-style food such as beef steak of Hamburg with French fries, or make a tomato Romaine Lettuce and Fried Beef sandwich, correct the child's eating habit slowly.
2,ldquo; Why do not only I have pocket money? rdquo;
Ding Jie's parents are all labourer's strata, the salary earned per month is only enough for the expenses of this month, so there is no remaining sum to use separately for the son. Man outstanding eyes see classmate have new the intersection of wave and shoes, new schoolbag go to school, and one's own wave already very incomplete and old in shoes and schoolbag, want, drink bottles of soda have money buy, feel oneself inferior more and more when the break. He begins to dislike parents, dislikes this family. The supper some day, he is looking at the only green vegetables and scrambled egg on the desk, burst into a rage to parents suddenly: ldquo; A wrong one is you finally, why give birth to me to suffer hardships? rdquo; Parents are very sad after hearing.
Prohibit speeches: ldquo; Being very conscienceless, you give birth to you bring you up, speak the words. rdquo; ldquo; There are meals that eat, have rooms to live, do you calculate bitter what is received? rdquo;
Clever saying: ldquo; Now it is poor since we are,it is but getting more optimistic only in the face of,last the predicament always. rdquo;
The expert shows the way: Most maybe this society compares. The poverty is not a fault, but as the child sees others' living condition, material are enjoyed all better than oneself, will cause a very big psychological obstacle. Should dispel this psychological obstacle, it is given to children that parents should be inculcated with poor and also happy consciousness, it might not be to spend money and buy the toy or video game player to make the child clear and obtain happiness. Parents can take child to the park to breathe the air of the nature on the vacation, or reach sandy beach dabble, activity these need too many money, and the child can have topics among the partners, the physical and psychological development of them will have certain benefits. This is a child with quite heavy inferiority complex, he thinks he survives and suffers hardships in this world, and give vent to this kind of mood on parents. In this case, parents should give child one to encourage first, tell him the predicament is temporary, so long as parents work hard, ldquo; Always tide over this predicament rdquo; . Then lead child from positive to go, watch whole the intersection of family and state, for example have plenty of food and clothing very, but it is good to compare the children of some countrysides, and parents work hard all to improve family's life, let children understand parents for parents' this compliment, thus experience parents' care and warmth of the family.
3,ldquo; Is it more importantly than I to make money? rdquo;
The parents that it helps, in order to let the quality of family life be better, besides working in the daytime, hold a part-time job in the evening. So it help every night can only have supper with grandmother, only Sunday together with parents ability. Though parents will make several telephones and inquire the situation for the son every day, treat the son coldly in fact. This Sunday, it helps parents to sleep until the sun is three poles high just get up, only see son's only size sit on the sofa eating biscuits, remember he grandmother go to the big aunt's home today, then coax the son to go to street to take hamburgers at once just. It helps all over socket of the eye tear to say: ldquo; You are absorbed in making money, speak to me? rdquo;
Prohibit speeches: ldquo; It is all for you that we are busy working. rdquo; ldquo; If pay no attention to you, we needn't be so arduous! rdquo;
Clever saying: ldquo; I am sorry! It is the feeling that we have not taken you into account, let us talk about hellip; hellip; rdquo;
The expert shows the way: It is no doubt important to enjoy the material, but the parent-offspring's feeling can't be neglected. Have exploited the chance that the child gets along with father, mother because of making money more, that was lost is certainly many than money. Increasingly many parents have ignored the communication with children because of working hard, when stopping in work, just discover that does not find out about children's idea and taste by oneself, but children do not think parents care about them, kindred drift apart more and more. So, much so-called generation gap questions are only that the people are, if parents, children can have good communication, care for each other, the generation gap that what? The child wishes eagerly to copolymerize family happiness with parents, have a lot of trouble to wait until Sunday, but parents sleep to get up greedily late, make the child more disappointed. In this case, should parents make a self-criticism to need two people to do part-time work at the same time? Can change into folk prescription hold a part-time job and both sides give up, hold a part-time job, time accompanies children a bit. Have, hold a part-time job in order to live, want, link up with the child a bit more also, experience their inner world, expand the parent-offspring's feeling.
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