Parents' emotion crisis expedites child delivery " L Two puzzled generations " R The number of people of psychological consultation rises

Parents' emotion crisis expedites child delivery " L Two puzzled generations " R The number of people of psychological consultation rises
They are the young people, they do psychological consultation for the emotion question or surf the Net to seek help. The question can often be summed up as a sentence: The question has happened in parents' emotion, how should I do? Nowadays, such consultation is on the rise, these young people are known as " L Two puzzled generations " . Why do they dare to face the network and seek help? How should they solve thorny problems faced? Before the sun, the reporter carries on the investigation.
The collegegirl is " L The family matters that can't bear " R Seek help
Since the new term begins autumn, stay, help some the intersection of university and old three the intersection of girl and elm Liu (the name of melting) Depressed all the time . During summer vacation, she found a secret, mother seems to have behavior of overstepping the limit.
Will it be 17 day September, elm Liu send and turn to the letter for help, the title is >. Her father is often on business, mother is an ordinary worker. During summer vacation, one " L Uncle " R Phone mother every evening. She has told mother : " Why he always phone, very annoying! " L Mother says echoing " R Yes " . However, the telephone is being made as before.
Soon, elm Liu exchange with that man's daughter, two people have talked about the thing phoned. Have made a judgement simultaneously: This one inglorious thing, two people certainly problematic.
National Day holidays come, the intersection of elm and plan Liu, main task in the vacation, " L Solve this problem satisfactorily " . She hopes to receive some suggestions .
The emotion crisis increases and brings up " L Two puzzled generations " R
Parents present the emotion question, children want to meddle in solving. In some psychological consultation organizations, there is more and more such help person. In one week recently, sociology of the intersection of Jinan and city learns psychological chief of research office Li Yu how to receive two university students' help. One question that girl meet, similar elm Liu among them. Another person is a boy, the question that he meets is a little more thorny. Father goes out of the rail, refuse to acknowledge the mistake, he wants to help mother.
Some young women still apply to social well-known personage for help. Writer Ke Yunlu says in the blog, he once received two girls' help letter continuously, reflect parents' behavior of overstepping the limit separately .
Some children still dare to seek help on the net . " The Mummy has overstepped the limit, what shall daughter do? " On July 26, a woman net friend wrote: " R Mother lies prone and cries bitterly on me, beg me to forgive her, that man is her friend, I know I should forgive her, but I think daddy is unfair, very contradictory in the heart . "
The net friend's answer is varied . Net friends have a unanimous view, the emotion crisis increases, overstep the limit the behavior can not be repeatly seen freshly, assault ethical idea of people, let growing children produce, confuse even more. " Non-mainstream whom my father understand after the 90 we, I can not understand him to my paying attention to morals and responsibility all day either, but betray my mother privately. Do not I think he can see through the life and emotion either? " L The net friend " R Reason arises " L Say.
In the face of such help person, Ke Yunlu's sense is indignant: " The extramarital affair not only involves several sides that grows up, but also involve the children in these families at the same time. If parents overstep the limit become fact already, how child have correct cognition and reply? "
Criticize color after desalinizing the morals
In the face of betraying, often at swords' points between couple, the injured party even criticizes the other side for having no Germany fiercely. " L Two puzzled generations " R Much more calm. They do not do too many morals to criticize, think especially how to save the family from damage, solve the problem properly .
September 9, the net friend " qwaiaiy" Seek help. Because of the reason of the work, it is here that he does not live with parents. " The intersection of daddy and this year 50 about year old, overstep the limit often, Mummy can do nothing about him, cry I all day should how about advise the daddy love any of house. "
The woman net friend " wqq0713" Answering, the her allowing father-in-law is so too, now has already reached the intensity of demanding to divorce. She think couple together time getting long, fresh degree no, some men unavoidably have attention of overstepping the limit. This kind of thing appears, it is not only a person's fault. If want to save this family from damage, had better communicate carefully under respecting father's prerequisite.
Even if some net friends are difficult accepts parents' behavior of overstepping the limit, relatively restrain. A net friend shows after the behavior of overstepping the limit told by mother that still loves mother very much, it is not good to only hate the social environment, become so relaxed and common to overstep the limit to let.
Li Yu says, in face-to-face psychological consultation, " L Two puzzled generations " R The great majority are too to judge the case as it stands, does not do the morals to criticize easily. This demonstrates their attention and understanding of human nature of the kindred.
The most key one is not to let oneself injured
Psychological consultation teacher Su Rui of the institute of education of Shandong says, one's maturity, needs a approved oneself course. At this growth stage, may include graduating from the high school in two or three years after graduating from university. University students worry for parents' emotion question, and deal with a task, it is self- ones that do not approve that throw . What they wanted to pass to parents " L The norm " ,Normal one's own behavior comes, establish the behavioral standard. Can say these questions out, it is a kind of progress.
Criticizing overly dense era in the morals, nobody would like to say the thing that parents overstep the limit out, someone will even take the too drastic measure.
Li Yu says, " L Two puzzled generations " R Manifestation,reflect harmonious in they family correctly aspiration. This kind is puzzled, stuffy may not be certain to be a good thing in the heart. Deal with, can blow get certain the intersection of maintenance and function while being intact to family positive and scientific.
Two professional personages of psychology think unanimously, " L Two puzzled generations " R Can communicate with parents on the issue that relevant, discuss the feeling and and does not do the morals to criticize; It should give them one's own right to choose and freedom to understand that can determine parents' emotion by oneself; Don't produce the psychology because of relevant problem panically, influence individual admitting that know to the emotion. Must understand, the problem happening on parents, might not appear on one's own body in the future.

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