Four major reasons _'s love time when the love comes into the grave

Four major reasons _'s love time when the love comes into the grave

Society and psychologist discover: Around us, a lot of persons who has gone through numerous hardships in the marriage for many years, extravagantly hope, have love in the marriage no longer nearly all, seem the intersection of acquiescence and marriage namely grave of the love; And those will step into the person of the marriage palace soon
Also the earth's core is stored and feared in fear and trepidation.The psychologist says: To some degree, the marriage is the grave of the love.How did the love come into the grave? The clinical psychology of the People's Hospital of Wuhan University is suitable slowly to grow to think, the love has come into the grave gradually with setting-up of marriage life. It mainly arises from several following respect reasons:First, " effect of ring of light " DisappearanceAs the body of strong light source of your direct-view, " only faints " that will feel body of this light source takes shape To the disperse around, make a neighbouring large stretch of area shrouded nearly as dazzling and brilliant as body of light source. A fascinated great advantage of the other side that we all make at least on one's body at the time of the love, know in longing for people's eyes " Beautiful to hide one hundred uglily " . This is totally a kind of fan's unreal feeling fermented out in love mood. Once get married, live a trifling, dull life in case of not covering up each other, " effect of ring of light " Having disappeared, both sides have reduced into true colours. Then would have the shortcoming attached to body has burst out, and been enlarged.Second, roles of both sides changeAt the time of the love, two people treat the other side with the lover's role together, the relation between both sides still belongs to the intimate different charges in nature friend. The lover is the independence, equal and respecting each other each other, and in order to reach the purpose of the marriage, can make allowances for the other side, yields to the other side but hurt and wronged more or less and demands perfection each other. But after getting married, relax to selfdiscipline, hope each other psychologically the other side adapts to oneself, obeys oneself, some even want to control the other side consciously or unconsciously, produce the implacable contradiction.Third, temptation of the sexWeaken it after the sexual relations are confirmed and fixed in the form of marriage, men and women interest in sex subside greatly, and feeling of sex as in the past strong so too.Fourth, have not increased the content of new promotion love development in the marriageLover every day fall in love, " I miss you " , " I love you " Chat about. But after getting married, the lovers think that does not need it so hard again, turn attention to oneself each other, begin to consider for oneself.


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