Psychological grand sight of the love

Psychological grand sight of the love
The main study on love can be divided into two kinds in the psychological eyes, first, social psychology category, theory about love; Another one is a psychological category of the personality, speak of the development theory that the personal life grows up, these theories will mention too, it is the personality psychology to belong to here in developmental psychology, pay attention to the intersection of ' personality ' and stability, unchanging meaning not contained, that is, emphasize personal lasting steady direction of lifeline, do not focus on the universality evolution of emphasizing this theory. We recommend in ' social how psychologist go to define what is the loving in the eyes ' first in here! The attitude theory Rubin of the love begins to define the love after a certain a particular a kind of attitude that he holds in pairs, in the social psychology mainstream of making the love incorporate into interpersonal attraction, and can use the general measurement method to study the love. He supposes the love is the independent concept that can be measured, can be regarded as a person to the particular others' polyhedral attitude to sex, he is from literature and art work, ordinary general knowledge and documents and materials of the interpersonal attraction, look for and draft the topic which narrates the emotion, test and set up love scale (lovescale) through project analysis, letter degree, result degree With liking scales (likingscale) ,He finds the love and likes there is difference of the qualitying, and include three kinds of composition 1s in their scales of love. Affinity and relying on the demand, 2. Want to help the other side's inclination 3. The love view type theories of exclusiveness and monopolizing Lee. Canadian sociologist JohnAlanLee collects and investigates the research at two stages of interview via the literature, divide the love between men and women into love (eros) of six kinds of shape lust , the love (ludus) of game , the love (storge) of friendship , the love (mania) depended on , realistic love (pragama) And favourable his love (agape) . What is called ' the love of the lust ' is set up in idealized external beauty, and the romantic, love of passion; ' the love of the game ' depends on the love looks at a game favored by opposite sex, will not add the true emotion, often change the target, and it was course but not result that paid attention to; ' the love of the friendship ' refers to the emotion like innocent childhood friend, it is a kind of doing little by little without a break type, steady love; ' the love depended on ' person is very great to the demand of the emotion; ' realistic love ' person consider realistic terms of the other side, in the hope of, let one's own reward award, increase and reduce love of cost that pay; But ' favourable his love ' person brings a kind of sacrifice, attitude devoted, pursue the love without asking the other side to reciprocate. Accept Rubin and regard the love as the direction of the attitude, some researchers work out the attitude scale of the love to verify the love type theory of Lee, the result of study finds that really there are six to degree, so has verified the theory of Lee. This scale has six weight tables, respectively represent different love types, each weight table each has seven questions, have 42 question altogether, adopt the intersection of reaction and way of scale answer to every consent intensity of declarative sentence five o'clock. In the future, will mostly study and regard this scale as the survey tool, will be approved by many scholars too. Theory the orientation of this kind of research of depending on the style of the love relation does not take off and classify the love either, but getting many to, with depend on relation, make, link by one, researcher these think the intersection of love and relation individual the intersection of baby and period and whom people set up depend on the relation, will make individuals form a lasting and steady personality speciality, this speciality reveals the individual while establishing intimate relation with opposite sex out naturally. They think the intersection of human and intimate relation type of hour attitude getting interdynamic attitude have relation of cause and effect exist to later on love. Introduce two kinds of love and depend on the style theory as follows. (1) Depending on the theory Hazan and Shaver of the style and is regarded as a kind of course depended on the love relation growing up of three types, namely set up course that love link among the companion, infant and pre-school children course that emotion link general in set up person who depend on by infancy and parents for instance, they propose according to three kinds of infant and pre-school children's inclination of depending on theory and Ainsworth,et al. of Bowlby three kinds of the love relation depend on the style Depend on safely: The relation with companion is good, steady, can believe in, support each other each other. Escape depending on: Participating in the conference what has been feared and escaped with the companion is intimate. Anxious contradiction depend on have the intersection of mood and unstable extreme phenomenon that react often, good at being jealous of and hope it is mutually beneficial with the companion's relation. Find in the research of Hazan and Shaver, three kinds of different love depend on the style among the adults the proportion is depended on safely and accounted for 56%, it escape it depend on it account for 25%,whose name is and anxious /contradiction be lasted 19% to be depended on,can't close quite depending on as baby by investigation proportion of type, and adult experimenters' love depends on the style, can predict from their subjective consciousness to their relation with parents; So they think the adult's love depend on the style, may begin a kind of interpersonal relationships orientation of developing since infant and pre-school children period. (2) To depend on the intersection of style and the intersection of theory and Bartholomew and Horowitz, depend on the intersection of style and concept of theory as the foundation with above-mentioned love four type, develop the love of a kind of four types and depend on the style theory, they with forward or not shouldering to purposes self- look like and not forward or shoulder to he people's will picture two analyzing in degree different, get the love of four kinds of types and depend on the style: *Depend on safely: Purpose look like and forward the intersection of he and the intersection of people's will and picture cause by forward oneself. *It is depended on that anxious: Shouldered to cause to oneself's purpose looking like and forward his people's will picture. *Exclude from depending on: It look like with shouldering purpose from oneselves forward to he people's will picture cause. Escape depending on: From shouldering it look like and shoulder in oneself purpose to he people's will picture cause. Except love composition theories divide love compositions into three kinds in the love scale of the development of above-mentioned Rubin, the triangular theory of Sternberg love is the most important making people know theory at present. He thinks the love includes three kinds of compositions: Intimate, passion, and promisesing. The so-called meaning intimately is similar to soul among the companions, agree with each other, the feeling of belonging to each other, belong to the emotion compositions of the love; The passion means that wishes eagerly to bind with companion strongly, impel and concern the motive which produces romantic and external attractiveness, that is to say the motive correlated to sex drives strength, belong to the motive compositions of the love; But promise including a short time and long-term two components, the short-term component means the individual decides to love a person, the long-term component refers to the permanent commitment done toward intimate relation between two people, belong to the cognitive compositions of the love. Increase and get along the change of the way with the time to know, have Three kinds of compositions stated will change to some extent, the triangle of the love will make up the increase and decrease of the element as among them, its shape and size will change. The triangular area represents quality and quantity of love, the larger the area is, according to the statement of Sternberg: The greater the triangle is, the more abundant the love is. Sternberg further proposes: There are 8 kinds of different love relation associations under 3 kinds of compositions, it parts Integrative acceptance, get along for a long time tacit understanding and thought required to come down similar, and complementary some memory and message,etc. each other, since the end of relation lost investment too. The resource aspect that the individual invests is the wider, the importance is the higher, the quantity is the larger, show the larger its amount of investment is; When the individual is in the amount of investment of this relation is the larger, the stronger the commitments to this relation is. Promise: Point in the mode this ' promise ', mean, will make individual go, try, keep the relation, and feel, depend on inclination in this relation. So the definition promised includes two components: Behavioral purpose and emotion (used after an attribute)
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