The greatest suspense of the love is after getting married

The greatest suspense of the love is after getting married
Yesterday, I went to eat two friends' wedding breakfast, this was said to them for the second time in three years by me: May you live a long life together. With winning, bringing shy and different listen to sentence this for the first time, they are accepting my blessing very calmly, and say: We will never toss about. Unless three years ago, unless get married they, two year later,from,stop everyone. Remarry each other again now, it seems that everyone can not pull open them. Some of everybody say with feeling. Listen to a friend who specializes in the marriage saying, he manages from Shanghai Municipal Bureau of Civil Affairs marriage and adopts the registration to know, the remarrying each other rate has been increased progressively year by year during these years, have divorced now, chosen to remarry each other, have already exceeded 10%. Inside, there are many things that is worth chewing - --A lot of people go to the store to buy the clothes, perhaps the first tried on feels good, but the one that thought in their heart is: Perhaps the better one is in other places. Turn around in the store, after tossing about and comparing for several times, cherish the memory of initial that one, then, roll over again, buy this back home excitedly - -Seldom have persons absolutely satisfied with or satisfy one's own things, no matter the work, love or marriage, frequently, we do not feel grateful and are happy it has so many " well " ,But have more one to take it to heart " It is not good " . The scenery is always in other places, the better one is always at the place where we can not reach yet temporarily, then, we are giving up and looking for in all one's life. But the end, we may get back to the first place again, this is a " fast knot " difficult to disassemble in our life ,The time and energy that our consumption for it is too much, the end just gets back to the starting point since the terminal. Those couple who reunioned of couple after separation or divorce, just like those two friends of mine, thought originally two people were together, just like fish at boiling oil cauldron suffering,too like,he (she) There is not a person in desirable in the world most, leave he (she) ,Have countless choices and chances oneself. A door, but you, close to the whole world like shutting. Divorcing will have some pain, but more one will free and opportunity. Divorcee look like university student that graduate just, have no measure while being ignorant a bit, but still self-satisfied - -Give up meaning emphatically rawly. Experienced the numerous mountains and rivers of the emotion, the scenery that it will be very beautiful that those thought originally again later, wait for you to really near, the tentacle can find it originally so usually in time. Answered to have a look excessively, insisted on abandoning in the past by oneself, there were so many moving places originally. Have a lot of things, when it does not belong to us, we can think of him to be fine while being more, so, in the world, there is eternal friend in this, but seldom there are eternal personal enemies. The couple remarrying each other, just as the passenger of scenery that two will be looked for elsewhere persistently, have gone around on very far way outside, suddenly saw the light later: The most beautiful one is actually the place that oneself sets out. We bring curious, hope and happiness, passion step into encircle a city, before this, we, about all imaginations of the marriage, are all appealing. Certainly, someone sober too, know marriage only beautiful the intersection of love and ideal and mediocre a protracted war that actual life make, so, they do not cherish any illusion, is that two pieces of usual mind that people live together entered the marriage if the tape gets married, the people can contentment brings happiness often, chew, produce sweetness and bitterness of life when being dull. The serious one is the first kind of person, illusion is always unwilling to evaporate, have an uneasy one and greedy heart, in the face of fully up to expectations marriage, unreconciled to, not recalcitrant unwilling to compromise, give up, do new choice. They will live very impetuously, very tired out too. They can't be calm accepts a place chicken feather of the marriage, will use the fist instead and talk with oneself after that is always wedding of fellow with a soft streak before marriage, when that woman good at solving the people's will before marriage dodders and chats like an old woman after marriage, as all sorts of congenital, defects of the day after tomorrow of the other side's are shown especially out little by little, they can not bear. This is itch of marriage which we often talk about, it is not any fatal focus, but it will make you very uncomfortable, fidgety and having no appetite for food and drinks, have free time, want to scratch and itch, really itch when not standing, cut out the place that itches unbearably simply. Those persons who remarry each other, too itch at one's wit's endly originally, then has jumped out from the marriage, after going through canceration of another emotion later, had an insight, it is not any serious discomfort to itch, so long as two people scratch patiently each other, maybe endure. Census data reveal: In divorcees, with two years marriageable age and the about one, as the majority in 20 years marriageable age. The former has not spent safely " Itch in three years " ,The latter should catch the last chance and do a romantic risk. I believe, a lot of broken marriages, not no because the marriage has cancer cells, leucocytes that are counted too high, but some little pains itch small, make them extremely anxious to want once and for all, thought that gave up the marriage, superficial. Those carry on the marriage person on earth, first, they know everything good at waiting to have, not the empty life of dawdling between meaningless giving up and searching; Second, they have enough tolerances, can hold out through X annual itch of the marriage. This itch, perhaps it is one year, perhaps three years, seven years, perhaps it is ten years, 30 years too, endure after coming over, the entire body is easy and safe, completely relaxed and happy. No wonder Nietzsche says, the greatest suspense of the love is after getting married.

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