's psychotherapy from the psychological in depth viewpoint of the love

's psychotherapy from the psychological in depth viewpoint of the love
No matter it is wounded how much is ever received, when the love come, it is the best curing and chance of curing the wound, from the psychological in depth viewpoint, the best the therapeutic one is one's own lover all over the world.



People in love, degradate get of baby period mdash often psychologically; mdash; I have something to need, needn't open one's mouth, parents should know, it is to cry and scream but is looked after the best method, but in the adult's world, in this way is the way possible? One is from the background of little growth, what kind of person regular meeting will influence him in the future to attract, and setting-up and maintenance of the intimate relation in the future. No matter it is wounded how much is ever received, when the love come, it is the best curing and chance of curing the wound, from the psychological in depth viewpoint, the best the therapeutic one is one's own lover all over the world.

Deep psychology

One is from the background of little growth, what kind of person regular meeting will influence him in the future to attract, and setting-up and maintenance of the intimate relation in the future. No matter it is wounded how much is ever received, when the love come, it is the best curing and chance of curing the wound, from the psychological in depth viewpoint, the best the therapeutic one is one's own lover all over the world. But because believe in, set up defences, add wounded dangerous a when most on being wounded too in love. When people's emotion is touched, enter an unrational subconscious course; Actually relation very like mother and baby of the love relation, have a tender feeling towards each other, look at each other amorously, want to dedicate the best one to the other side, will be anxious, uneasy when being not together, like ' one day apart seems like three years '.

Relation today and former times of the love

Only in the love, two pieces of basic psychological need of people's must be satisfied at the same time: It is admitted first, unconditional, second, rank first in the minds of persons loved, hollow or unripe person under special heart, apt to rely on the other side come on, support the intersection of you and fragile the intersection of self-value and sense. Unconsciously, expect the other side can admit you unconditionally whenever and wherever possible, put you in the primary importance whenever and wherever possible; The person without sense of safety of the psychology, the requirements for companion are in the future; The wound received in the past, should ask for the relation that like now. For example ignored at home in the past, will require the companion to give you attention constantly unconsciously now; Managed too terribly in the past, will require the companion to believe in you now, gave you a space. After mutually letting all the life each other, you will think: Why what I want, do not but you give to me? Person in love, degradate, get back to of baby period mdash often psychologically; I have something to need, needn't open one's mouth, parents should know, it is to cry and scream but is looked after the best method, but use crying and screaming in the adult's world, punish the other side, impose him to meet your psychological need way, it is impractical.

There are several important concepts in deep psychology, can help us to cut constantly, pay attention to, in the messy intricate the intersection of love and relation, find out some main threads, let we while analyzing that handle problem, know more correct direction.

So-called empathy until some emotion of VIP shift people that had run into up till now to life in the past, alternatively, the emotion demand thought of obtaining from some VIPs but has failed to achieve one's goal, hope to be satisfied from the present relation.

A lot of people because in the psychological shortage in a certain respect while as a child, once received relevant satisfaction, no matter suitable at the people, fall into the trap of the love. For example there is lady, it is the fourth daughter, were often ignored at home while as a child, one day went out to go astray from the group with family, but father did not know completely. She is low from the little self-esteem, think oneself is an ugly duckling, wish eagerly to be treasured by father, but fail to achieve one's goal. Unless in research institute, it there is be house and have room about fifty years of age,it is full that there is be loving father shape like professor pay attention to by she beginning, while appreciating her, she thinks that loves this professor incurably, is originally not be in the mood for destroying others' family, but fall into the trap, the other person getting married in the other feeling unconsciously. The tragedies of a lot of extramarital relations take place like this, everybody is excusable, they are not wicked to the extreme, but if you such as I are full of weakness of human natures.
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