It causes boys to suffer from depression that parents divorce in concealing type! 's marriage psychology

It causes boys to suffer from depression that parents divorce in concealing type! 's marriage psychology
Present prevalence while divorcing. However, after a lot of parents with child divorce, for not wanting to injure the fact that the child often conceals divorcing to the child, hardly realize, this kind of method, when the child know the truth, often injure bigger.



The boy 10 years old encounters parents ldquo; Concealing rdquo; Divorced
The 10 -year-old boy's small house encounters parents ldquo; Concealing rdquo; Divorced, after parents find out the clue in secretive behavior from him, mother Ms. Wang in the little space has not seen that once innocent and artless smiling face carefree of the son again, the substitute is the wooden expression and almost peace and quiet without the language. In this way, small happiness childhood of space parents ldquo; Concealing rdquo; Divorce but but Ga is stopped.
After Ms. Wang divorces for one year, the great change takes place in the personality of the small space, and the psychological symptom of the morbid state has appeared, the psychologist makes a definite diagnosis of after checking, the small space suffers from slight depression. ldquo; I hope to protect him, hope he tells the thing that he divorces a bit more oldly, I'm afraid his too little psychology can not be born. Have never expected the son has a depression, I am really that an empress dowager is repentant, know early that should say to the child directly originally, it make by he true in the face of,then it is patient explain to him by reason where oneself divorce, it would be better if strove for his understanding! rdquo; Ms. Wang includes the tears to say.
For not influencing children Couple decide to conceal and divorce
Ms. Wang is 34 years old this year, live in the loose street of river of district in Kazakhstan's market condition, in August of 2009, she and husband has gone through formalities of divorcing, Ms. Wang lives with the son young space. ldquo; Small space is 10 years old this year, a primary school in the district is in grade 5 in one. Face light to rise the beginning at once, afraid of influencing his study, we determine to hide the thing of divorcing from him first, wait for last junior middle school such as he, tell he when being a bit bigger. rdquo; Ms. Wang says, after divorcing, father in the little space has gone to the other places. While leaving, are afraid the son perceives, has left a lot of clothes and article for daily use specially.
ldquo; Father in the little space sells in a company, has been originally defrauding of the little space and saying his father has been on business to other places all the time. Two months passed by, the small space begins to miss father, will nearly have a phone convesation and say two sentences to his father every day. rdquo; Ms. Wang says, before last year, father in the little space came back once, has bought a lot of presents for the small space, then say to the small space, he must be on business to other places. Ask, my father, why are you always on business in the small house? At that time, father in the little space wondered what to say.
ldquo; Before I divorce father in the little space, never quarrelled in front of son, but the small space has been very careful since childhood, can always find us at odds. rdquo; Ms. Wang says, ldquo; After divorcing, I hardly have a phone convesation with father in the little space. His father was always on business suddenly, though these small space did not say, watch with the tail of one's eye, have born in mind. rdquo;
Celebrate the New Year, little space and mother go back the intersection of grandmother and house, Ms. Wang say old man and thing that relative divorce for her sad those days, but everybody should still hold very happy in front of the little space, ldquo; From that time, small space ask me whether whether quarrel with father, whether I all say frequently. rdquo;
Discover parents divorce The boy suffers from slight depression
After all, there is no concealing the truth. Unless it is May this year, be taken child palaces scientific and technological to play friend Wang,when have no intention of not spilling the beans friend when be chatted, ldquo; I did not think at that time the son hear the friend asking how I planned after divorcing to do, when come back home to have supper, the small space lay prone to cry for on the dining table loudly suddenly, said while crying, mum, my father does not need us, whether will never come back? rdquo; Ms. Wang says, whenever recall that scene at that time and can't help shedding the tears.
Subsequent a few days, Ms. Wang has been comforting the small space, father in the little space comes back specially to accompany him for 3 days too. That evening before leaving, the small space cried for one night again. ldquo; From finding after we divorce, the small space changes greatly, depressed, depressed every day, let classmate be family, play with neither play with the wheel and slip, play soccer, nor. Often staring flankly alone, I never saw son's innocent and artless smiling face. rdquo; Ms. Wang says, in order to let the small space be happy, she has done the dish that he likes being eaten most for the little space, having bought a lot of snacks and toy, but the small space is that a face is stupefied, and often baffled cry or getting angry to answer back to others. ldquo; Not long ago, will open parents the teacher told me, had a class absent-mindedly in the small house hour, because any minor matter will get angry to classmate often, achievement to fall, produce the top 10 of the class for the first time even more. rdquo;
On October 25, in one hospital of Harbin, the doctor of psychology dept. makes a definite diagnosis of after checking, the small space accords with depression of the clinical diagnostic standard, it is a slight depression early period symptom, through treating effectively, the small space can heal.
Psychological expert Conceal and divorce greater to child's injury
The statistics show, suffer from the quantity of teenagers of depression and increase year by year, most of patients have had experience neglected, despised, the child of single parent among them has accounted for twenty percent of the depression patient.
ldquo; When many parents divorce, will think of injuring children at first. However, conceal and divorce and often turn out contrary to one's wishes, like small space, parents have concealed the fact of divorcing, the injury received instead will be bigger. rdquo;
The expert says, ldquo; Concealing rdquo; The method to divorce, once the child learns from other routes, often have no psychological preparation, will present a great deal of negative mood of suspecting, anxious, painful etc., will become at a loss. Guan MingYu says, parents don't conceal the fact of divorcing to the child certainly at first, the parents of the single-parent family should follow factors such as the child's personality, age,etc., in such a manner that the child can accept most, explain the reason why oneself divorces to them calmly, sincerely, patiently, strive for their understanding, teach children how to deal with various inquiry from external world, and let the child understand the single-parent family is the normal social phenomenon. Parents will socialise with the child more, will help children to substantiate life. Because family's structure is incomplete, the life of the single-parent family is duller, the child is apt to feel the spiritual inanition and loneliness. For this reason, the parents of the single-parent family are busier every day, should find time to accompany the child to chat more too, listen attentively to the child's heartfelt wishes.
In addition, because has lacked father or mother in daily life, the child relative to others, the child of the single-parent family contacts the chance of the society and relatively reduces too, social knowledge is not abundant enough either, parents should help children to expand the community, know some more friends, study more, make their body and mind grow up healthy and sound. In addition, the child reveals disadvantage mdash of the home education at ordinary times too to the too drastic response that parents divorce; mdash; Parents look after the child to attend to each and every aspect of a matter, has let children produce the extremely strong reliance sense, once discover parents will think it will fall down when divorcing, terrified to the life of the future. So, it is essential to train the child's independent consciousness and ability to solve the problem by oneself, the child should face the varied problem in the course of growing up, it is a question among them to divorce in the face of parents, so, parents want to review, let the child learn to look after oneself, protect oneself, form strong and independent personality.
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