Parents misjudge " L Love online " R Make daughters suffer from psychological disease

Parents misjudge " L Love online " R Make daughters suffer from psychological disease
A girl is made a definite diagnosis of and suffers from serious psychological disease, short-tempered and variable, often have horrible nightmares at night, need drug therapy. The doctor diagnoses and discovers, the young girl has illness coming on and comes from parents' educating improperly. She made friends and mediated the study pressure on the net, was thought with many persons of net friend's love online by mistake by parents unexpectedly, criticized repeatedly, bury the serious heart to form. The psychological expert thinks, incorrect judgements that children are behavioral to adolescence of parents, cause them to adopt the too drastic act to the child.
Parents call the police and prevent the daughter from making friends
It is small and quick (Assumed name ) It is Senior Two students of a middle school in the south of this city, do not like communicating with people at ordinary times. Since gone to the high school, small and so sensitive that study the pressure very largely, so often surf the Net and chat, do not pour out heart to the net friend fast, and keep the connection with several net friends. The little and quick behavior brings parents' attention, mother reaches the conversation list that the telecommunication bureau printed the daughter simply, find that the telephone numbers of several different charges in nature net friends appear repeatedly.
Then, assert it daughter little quick parents in and persons of net friend love onlines many,begin to teach until every day by daughter tirelessly: " Should study wholeheartedly before being admitted to a university, it is a thing in the future to fall in love. And the love can only talk to a target, can not talk at the same time to several people. " Even stop and associate with the net friend littly and quickly through calling the police.
Small and quick and unwilling to speak with parents more, the temper deteriorates day by day too, it is in short for no reason to the school, the sleep is alarmed by the nightmare repeatedly, does not find that has already suffered from serious psychological disease until the hospital went to a doctor, suspend schooling and cure the disease.
Judge there should be bases in the calf love
Teacher Wei Ying's sister-in-law of psychological consultation analyzes: Judge whether the child falls into calf love or love online, a very important standard is: Produce the strong and absorbed emotion only to a fixed opposite sex. And small and quick keeping the normal connection with several net friends, make the pen friend and have analogy with the students in the past.
Look like sixteen such quick seven -year-old teenagers small, in the body and mind in growth is puzzled, they are right to get " L It is approved that of the same generation " R Expectation getting bigger very,hope they let's get not appreciating, but it has that contacts are puzzled of opposite sex, the complicated psychological activity appears. Little quick parents excessively enlarge essence and result of the thing, adopt the too drastic words and deeds, have increased the child's psychological pressure. Small and quick and ill, too drastic words and deeds launch reacting inside to parents.
Wei YingDi says, the psychological problem that a lot of children appear in the course of growing up is all closely linked to parents' breeding way. Parents want to dissolve the child's heart to form, should change one's own attitude first. Because what parents occupied in the home education is leading status, the child's behavior receives parents' behavioral direct influence. After the thing happens, parents should look for the reason from oneself first, and change pointedly, could improve parent-offspring's relation, then bring along children to change the attitude.
Should exchange with the child equally
The reporter finds, many parents are afraid the child falls into calf love or love online in adolescence like little quick parents, do not know how to exchange with child .
Wei YingDi says, some parents do not have equal and unblocked two-way exchange to child's just one-sided inculcating with, not finding out about child's true existence state,etc., thus produce and judge by mistake. Parents should exchange with the child as equally as possible, have certain assurance on the child's state, and offer children an appropriate space .
If the child really produces the love with the opposite sex, parents must not require both sides to break off the exchanges by force, this will run counter to desire. Allow both sides to carry on the appropriate contacts, grasp two people's contacts intensity in but the span of control, share own falling in love story and experience with the child, give directions to the child. Can understand the situation that some two people associate by friend around child, but needn't understand too much, reserve certain space for children.

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