A worry of man ability

A worry of man ability
I am that one is close to the desperate person, after I see on the newspapers and periodicals you are as the reply which other readers do, think you perhaps can lighten my agony. That was 1992, I graduated and waited to be assigned at home. One day, I saw accidentally that there is an article which appraised man nature ability in a magazine. After finishing reading this article, I begin to pay close attention to one's own ability in this respect. As time passes, suspected oneself unexpectedly, always think that has similar trouble too oneself. This kind of state has gone on for half years. Later, I had participated in the adult college entrance examination, have been admitted to a two (or-three)-year-term college in Beijing. Because it is tense to study at that time, there are classmates of a lot of friends together, faded from memory much more in above-mentioned trouble, and I was still young at that time, did not face problems such as marriage,etc., so the problem was not so serious. The thing transferred last month. The family introduces a marriage partner for me, after we meet, it is very satisfied each other. When we began to keep in touch, because I participated in the examination, overworked, had illness coming on to live in the hospital suddenly. Check by the doctor, confirm as small calculus of the urinary system. This disease was originally minor, during in hospitalling, calculus was discharged, but that worry has been aggravated, and suspect on one's own sex ability. A different one was with last time, knew obviously this time that had no disease oneself, but can't help thinking like that, and want to be afraid, afraid that thinks. My girl friend is a kindhearted and sincere girl, I like her very much. Since have after the the strange idea, whenever when I expect she or stay with her, feel I cheat she, get married, it brings shes to be disaster instead of happy. This worry is tormenting me everyday, make me suffocate, I am very afraid that accumulate strongly fragrantly and become disease by oneself, grow out some diseases. But this kind of idea can not be got rid of really as growing in the brain. Professor Chen, hope you can tell me, this worry can be cured? How could cure? How should I go to face the girl friend? Look forward to your saving me, give me the life of normal people. * solemn solemn gentlemen in Tianjin: About the intersection of sex and the intersection of ability and issue, book that you watch speak, speak complete unable to find out completely already, but can say at least, you, to " sex ability " What these 3 representatives of words are, can not speak out. In what respects perhaps your thinking ability is ability of sexual intercourse, and this kind of ability displays on earth, but know nothing. Just as that the youth consoling oneself in a habit worries suffering from impotence, think oneself clever, assume as a matter of course, a person without marriage, how could prove he is impotence? You are like this too, why without getting married suspect one's own sex ability? What is called ability not only refers to the ability that man women hand in, but include the meaning of quite extensive love is here inside. First of all, you do not dislike women, like your girl friend very much, want to keep in touch with her from psychology, this is a kind of characteristic of sex ability. Secondly, in the contacts between you and her, with the intensification of the emotion, there must be behavior of very intimate each other and caress, such as embracing, kissing etc., this is a kind of sex ability. Marry her finally, has indicated to already possess more intact sex thought process psychologically from you, but it is verified that you are scarce to the sexual life, thus confidence is insufficient. Your reproductive system is not defective either, though you have not proposed any content in this respect in letter, but it is excited that you have normal penis erecting, sex and pass out semen, prove your physiological structure of sex is normal. Then what do you lack on earth? What I wanted to only lack is still sex experience. Under the terms of the having experience, the thing that the considering is gone through, and fabricate one's own this not all right kind of assumption of ability out but earnestly, do not meet trouble halfway? You oneself should understand the assumption still fortunately, want, go, think involuntarily just, namely you force thinking at present. Cause this kind of immediate cause which forces thinking to relate to your personality. According to the situation that you narrate, you are a pursuit perfection but lack the self-confident person. The intersection of pursuit and perfection at the general meaning copy bad thing, but if everything ask perfect, so-called " look for a bone in an egg " ,Always look for one's own deficiency, will cause a kind of regular thinking tendency, know perfectly well that should not think of some thing, but can't help thinking. This prove it pursues perfect people to be self-confident often overly, so you want everything to look at the larger picture too just, don't adhere rigidly to the small matter, keep self-confidence. Another one may relate to the fact that you see men and women's sexual relations too mysteriously. As the saying goes " Success will come after conditons are ripe " ,Why is so tense now? Can be compared to a person who takes single-plank bridge, actually could be generous, go over easily calmly, but because is too anxious and too tense, it is out of control and falling down to make the body take action instead. This is not obviously that body goes out of order, but the psychology goes out of order. Since it is psychology that go out of order, must face, make great efforts, adjust psychological condition of person who correct: Relax your perfect doctrine, give a little confidence of oneself; To the so-called ability, the school grade in the face of you, should be a natural thing too, have love and have corresponding sex ability.

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